When you tell your judgement to people about themselves, you would get those two spontaneous reactions: Rejections or acceptance. Mostly, rejections for negative (bad) judgement and acceptance for good ones. Both of those will later lead them into long-term, pasca-judgement, reactions: Change themselves or stay with their current personality.
Most people think when they tell someone about his/her what-they-think negative traits, that someone would change his/her into positive. Because, yes, a negative traits is supposed to be changed indeed. But there's some weakness here:
I bet most of you think the reason why she is fussier is that she's only rejecting the judgment. She can't accept criticism. But no guys, there's one reason again: She's accepting what you said about her. Her mind is unconsciously persuade her that she is it is. Which is, your judgment, since it's based on your opinion, is very likely to be false.
And none of us want that.
That's what I learn from become a such kind of fortune-teller these past years. It's not just about telling people prediction. It's about people life. We are not God, don't play God then. Like that.
We are meant to be good to people, but sometimes, what we do is, in reality, not always come out good. But still, there must be a better way.
Thanks for reading.
@elnalalita
Most people think when they tell someone about his/her what-they-think negative traits, that someone would change his/her into positive. Because, yes, a negative traits is supposed to be changed indeed. But there's some weakness here:
- Your judgement is not always true,
- Not everyone could improve themselves that way, and
- A judgement could happen to affect human subconscious.
You say to someone that you think she's so generous. After that, unconsciously, she will start regularly give money to beggars. Why? Because 1. She is generous. Or 2. She thinks she is.That's example for positive judgement. Let's move to the negatives.
Example 2. You say to someone that you think she's so noisy and annoying. From this movements, we will get two reactions:
- She will start controlling her mouth, realizing how her fussiness could annoy people around her, and start listening to others. Nice.
- She will become even fussier. She start to devil-may-care with people's mind. Part of self development? Maybe yes. Maybe no.
I bet most of you think the reason why she is fussier is that she's only rejecting the judgment. She can't accept criticism. But no guys, there's one reason again: She's accepting what you said about her. Her mind is unconsciously persuade her that she is it is. Which is, your judgment, since it's based on your opinion, is very likely to be false.
And none of us want that.
We are meant to be good to people, but sometimes, what we do is, in reality, not always come out good. But still, there must be a better way.
@elnalalita
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